Bridesmaid to be – What Are Your Duties?

Before you agree to be a bridesmaid, know that some duties come with this title. Once you decide to play bridesmaid, you should be ready to set aside some money and time. Here are some things that you will have to do as a member of the bridal party:

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Attend the Wedding

Unless a big emergency occurs, you need to be at the ceremony and reception of the wedding. You have to be ready to dance. A relaxed crowd requires a few people to get the party started, and you signed up for this job as a bridesmaid. If you are shy and anxious in front of people, you should find some coping mechanisms because you have to dance.

Attend the Rehearsal Dinner, Bachelorette Party, and Bridal Shower

Of course, the bride-to-be cannot expect every bridesmaid to show up at every pre-wedding event. However, as a bridesmaid, you should try to attend as many of them as possible. The only exception is if the bride throws multiple showers – in this case, you should only attend one of them.

If you are a long flight away and had made your own plans long before the wedding plans, you might get a pass. Are you a brand-new mom or with child? You do not have to go to a boisterous bachelorette party. If your child is old enough for a babysitter, you can attend the bachelorette party for a few hours.

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Lend an Ear

The bride-to-be might need to vent out her frustrations from time to time. It is your job as one of the bridesmaids to lend an ear and listen to her complaints. However, if she keeps whining about her future mother-in-law, you should look for ways to distract her. As a friend of the bride-to-be, you should be willing to offer solutions to any problems.

Help in Choosing Bridesmaid Dresses

The bride-to-be can choose dresses without consulting her bridal party. However, if she asks for your opinion, you should give it. When buying from sites such as, you should provide the right measurements to avoid ending up with ill-fitting clothes.

You should let the bride know the dresses that make you uncomfortable. This way, she will choose a style that matches the wedding theme and makes everyone feel comfortable.

Help in Planning the Bachelorette Party and Bridal Shower

The role of planning parties falls on the maid of honor but the bridal party should also offer some ideas. You might need to help with duties, decorate, and contribute some money. Are you on a limited budget? You should let the bride-to-be know in advance to avoid last minute problems.

In some cases, the parents of the wedding couple might pay for the bridal shower. However, this only happens in isolated cases. As a bridesmaid, you should be ready to chip in for the wedding.

Buy Your Own Bridesmaid Dress

Though some brides usually pay for the bridal party’s outfits, it is expected that every bridesmaid cover the cost of her own dress. For this reason, you should be ready to pay for your own dress. Do not go into it expecting the bride to pay for your outfit because you might be disappointed.

However, if you do not have money to buy a new dress, you should let the bride know ahead of time. This way, she can help you to buy your outfit.


Being a member of the bridal party comes with some duties. Before you volunteer to be a bridesmaid, you should be aware of these duties. Doing so keeps you from being caught off-guard by things.

Also read: How to choose perfect guest wedding dress.

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